Ep 18 – Advice for People Who Love Someone Trapped in Addiction

 

“The help has always been out there.”

Guest:  Bruce Friddle, founder of Perimeter Recovery Residence   www.perimeterrecovery.com

Advice for parents  and others who love an addict:

  • Take care of yourself
  • Get over your embarrassment
  • Be willing to get uncomfortable
  • Realize that it is a Spiritual problem, not just a physical one
  • Be willing to get out of the way
  • Let go
  • Break your dependency on the addict
  • Get support for yourself like Alanon. Talk to other parents going through this same situation.
  • Set boundaries. Realize the power you have in controlling what’s going on.

Questions for reflection:

  • Are you participating in killing them?
  • Are you really keeping your child alive? Are they living?
  • What in your life has suffered to keep your child alive?
  • Are you willing to get out of the way and let someone take over?

Common Mistakes Loved Ones Make:

  • Can’t let go
  • Been living this way for so long the parents/loved ones have become co-dependent
  • Life revolves around the addict
  • Trying to fight ‘the beast’ by yourself without the tools/knowledge to fight
  • Not enforcing boundaries/not realizing the power they have to effect what is happening

Evaluating a Recovery Program:

  • Look for references.
  • Are they ethical? Do they have integrity?
  • Don’t blame the program.
  • What is their area of expertise?
  • Do they include the mental and the spiritual in their treatment? What is their approach to recovery?
  • Are they GARR approved? Are they in good standing with GARR?

Websites

www.garrnow.org   Ga Assoc of Recovery Residence

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Ep 17 – Why God Calls Us to Dangerous Places

Surely a loving Father would never send his children into danger. Yet we read over and over again of God doing just that. What then is God’s motivation? These two know firsthand what it’s like to serve where many have warned them not to go. They will help us understand why God calls us to dangerous places.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why so many churches avoid sending people to dangerous places
  • How our theology affects where we think God is calling us
  • What its like to worship with people living under persecution
  • How to respond to family members who don’t approve of where you are going
  • The blessings of serving in a dangerous place
  • Why God calls us to dangerous places

Ep 15 – Preparing the Soil: Helping Liberian Cocoa Farmers be Fruitful

In this episode you will hear from three people who recently returned from visiting a rural Liberian village.  While there, they shared the gospel, discipled believers, trained teachers, dedicated the Mack and Pattie Hannah library, provided health education, and listened to local Cocoa farmers talk about what they need to be successful.

Out of those conversations, a vision has developed for a Christ-centered Cocoa Processing Facility that has the potential to change the lives of many families in the Gbansue village.

Check out episodes 6 & 7 of the Mission Life podcast for an interview with Jessy Togbadoya, founder of the Balama Development Alliance, the ministry featured in this podcast.

Also visit www.balamaproject.org

 

Ep 13 – Taking Bread to Boston

In this episode, I talk with Lindsay Hicks about her unique approach to college ministry, some surprising challenges many students are facing, and how parents should handle sending their students off to college where they might struggle to hold onto their faith.

Here are some takeaways from our conversation:

Students are dealing with some surprising challenges like depression, homelessness and hunger.  Lindsay’s ministry is attempting to serve students in spiritual and physical ways.

Advice for Christian parents sending their kids off to college:

  1. Trust Your Kids:  You’ve taught them the Bible now you have to trust them to live it out.
  2. Give Grace:  Chances are they will mess up.  They may fail a class when they never did in high school.  They may begin to ask questions about faith they never asked before.  Will you and your home be a safe place to ask those questions? Will they be able to escape the pressures of college culture in your home?

Bread Coffeehouse @ Tufts will be a place for the Christian and non-Christian student.  As an update, this episode was recorded in August of this year.  Now Lindsay is in Boston and building relationships with students.

For more on Bread, visit www.breadcoffeehouse.org

Ep 12 – A Teacher Accepts a Bold Assignment

She’s a teacher who recently accepted a bold assignment to teach in a closed country.  Hear what she’s up to and the question that led her to pack up and go.  Discover how being used right where you are could you lead you to places you never imagined.

From this episode, two main questions emerge for all who follow Christ:

  1. How can I be used right where I am?
  2. What makes me think God would not call me to go to hard place (a closed country)?

Don’t limit yourself and what God is capable of doing with you.