Ep 18 – Advice for People Who Love Someone Trapped in Addiction


“The help has always been out there.”

Guest:  Bruce Friddle, founder of Perimeter Recovery Residence   www.perimeterrecovery.com

Advice for parents  and others who love an addict:

  • Take care of yourself
  • Get over your embarrassment
  • Be willing to get uncomfortable
  • Realize that it is a Spiritual problem, not just a physical one
  • Be willing to get out of the way
  • Let go
  • Break your dependency on the addict
  • Get support for yourself like Alanon. Talk to other parents going through this same situation.
  • Set boundaries. Realize the power you have in controlling what’s going on.

Questions for reflection:

  • Are you participating in killing them?
  • Are you really keeping your child alive? Are they living?
  • What in your life has suffered to keep your child alive?
  • Are you willing to get out of the way and let someone take over?

Common Mistakes Loved Ones Make:

  • Can’t let go
  • Been living this way for so long the parents/loved ones have become co-dependent
  • Life revolves around the addict
  • Trying to fight ‘the beast’ by yourself without the tools/knowledge to fight
  • Not enforcing boundaries/not realizing the power they have to effect what is happening

Evaluating a Recovery Program:

  • Look for references.
  • Are they ethical? Do they have integrity?
  • Don’t blame the program.
  • What is their area of expertise?
  • Do they include the mental and the spiritual in their treatment? What is their approach to recovery?
  • Are they GARR approved? Are they in good standing with GARR?


www.garrnow.org   Ga Assoc of Recovery Residence


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