“The help has always been out there.”
Guest: Bruce Friddle, founder of Perimeter Recovery Residence www.perimeterrecovery.com
Advice for parents and others who love an addict:
- Take care of yourself
- Get over your embarrassment
- Be willing to get uncomfortable
- Realize that it is a Spiritual problem, not just a physical one
- Be willing to get out of the way
- Let go
- Break your dependency on the addict
- Get support for yourself like Alanon. Talk to other parents going through this same situation.
- Set boundaries. Realize the power you have in controlling what’s going on.
Questions for reflection:
- Are you participating in killing them?
- Are you really keeping your child alive? Are they living?
- What in your life has suffered to keep your child alive?
- Are you willing to get out of the way and let someone take over?
Common Mistakes Loved Ones Make:
- Can’t let go
- Been living this way for so long the parents/loved ones have become co-dependent
- Life revolves around the addict
- Trying to fight ‘the beast’ by yourself without the tools/knowledge to fight
- Not enforcing boundaries/not realizing the power they have to effect what is happening
Evaluating a Recovery Program:
- Look for references.
- Are they ethical? Do they have integrity?
- Don’t blame the program.
- What is their area of expertise?
- Do they include the mental and the spiritual in their treatment? What is their approach to recovery?
- Are they GARR approved? Are they in good standing with GARR?
www.garrnow.org Ga Assoc of Recovery Residence