Ep 18 – Advice for People Who Love Someone Trapped in Addiction


“The help has always been out there.”

Guest:  Bruce Friddle, founder of Perimeter Recovery Residence   www.perimeterrecovery.com

Advice for parents  and others who love an addict:

  • Take care of yourself
  • Get over your embarrassment
  • Be willing to get uncomfortable
  • Realize that it is a Spiritual problem, not just a physical one
  • Be willing to get out of the way
  • Let go
  • Break your dependency on the addict
  • Get support for yourself like Alanon. Talk to other parents going through this same situation.
  • Set boundaries. Realize the power you have in controlling what’s going on.

Questions for reflection:

  • Are you participating in killing them?
  • Are you really keeping your child alive? Are they living?
  • What in your life has suffered to keep your child alive?
  • Are you willing to get out of the way and let someone take over?

Common Mistakes Loved Ones Make:

  • Can’t let go
  • Been living this way for so long the parents/loved ones have become co-dependent
  • Life revolves around the addict
  • Trying to fight ‘the beast’ by yourself without the tools/knowledge to fight
  • Not enforcing boundaries/not realizing the power they have to effect what is happening

Evaluating a Recovery Program:

  • Look for references.
  • Are they ethical? Do they have integrity?
  • Don’t blame the program.
  • What is their area of expertise?
  • Do they include the mental and the spiritual in their treatment? What is their approach to recovery?
  • Are they GARR approved? Are they in good standing with GARR?


www.garrnow.org   Ga Assoc of Recovery Residence


Ep 17 – Why God Calls Us to Dangerous Places

Surely a loving Father would never send his children into danger. Yet we read over and over again of God doing just that. What then is God’s motivation? These two know firsthand what it’s like to serve where many have warned them not to go. They will help us understand why God calls us to dangerous places.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why so many churches avoid sending people to dangerous places
  • How our theology affects where we think God is calling us
  • What its like to worship with people living under persecution
  • How to respond to family members who don’t approve of where you are going
  • The blessings of serving in a dangerous place
  • Why God calls us to dangerous places

Ep 16 – I Only Speak 6 Languages

He’s a Burmese Pastor and disciplemaker, a student of movements and someone who has faced persecution for his faith.  He came here seeking asylum because it was no longer safe to return home.  Now, he’s sharing the gospel and planting churches all over the USA.  This is the story of James Amar.

James’ ministry is a DBC supported mission partner with opportunities for you and your class or small group.

To find out more about James’ ministry, visit www.jmaministries.org

3 Practical Implications for Resettlement Organizations When Refugee Numbers Are Changed

Regardless of opinion, here are three practical implications for refugee resettlement agencies when numbers of refugees brought to the US are reduced or the flow is stopped. 

Based on a conversation I had today with a resettlment organization in Atlanta…I am sure there are many more issues they face. 

1. Reduced Funding: Orgs receive funding based on the number of refugees they settle. The US was slated to receive 110,000 refugees this year. That number has been reduced to 50,000 – where it was roughly 5 years ago (i have been told but not confirmed.)Last year we resettled 85,000 refugees. 
2.  Downsizing:  Reduced funding naturally leads to letting go staff such as caseworkers.  One resettlement group in Atlanta told me today they expect to lay off half their office (10 people) due to the 4 month hiatus and reduction in the number of refugees to be resettled.  An estimated loss of $240,000 to their budget. 
3.  Rehiring or Training New Employees:  When the refugee highway is opened again, these groups will likely have to rehire or train new employees to handle new cases.  Experienced personnel may have found jobs by the time the spigot is turned back on.  

At the end of the day, it’s about how best to help those fleeing war and persecution, not what is best for aide or relief organizations.  Even so, decisions affect not only those in need of help, but the many wonderful people and organizations set up to help them.  

Just something to consider.  If you’re looking to hire people with cross cultural experience, maybe call up a refugee organization having to do layoffs.  Or just call them up and thank them for what they do.  

Ways to Help Refugees No Matter What Governments Do

welcome sign at skala

A camp near the coast of Lesvos, Greece.  Photo taken in March 2016.

While politicians and protestors make their votes and voices heard, there are always ongoing ways to serve refugees.

Whether a government welcomes refugees, waits, or refuses, there are always opportunities to help the millions of refugees living in camps all over the world.  Some estimate the average stay in a refugee camp is 17 years.  So, don’t let noise and headlines distract you from what has always been an great need in our world.


Here are some agencies doing amazing work for refugees and ways you can help:

In camps around the world:

World Relief:  Whether Africa, Asia, the Middle East or United States, World Relief is there.   You can donate, adopt a refugee family, or go international to serve with them. Check them out at www.worldrelief.org

Euro Relief:  Euro Relief is a wonderful organization with opportunities to serve directly in camps in Greece.  We have sent 2 teams to serve with them and have had a wonderful experience both times.  http://eurorelief.net/

Samaritan’s Purse: SP is working in camps in Greece and Croatia as well as working with partners in Macedonia, Serbia and Hungary.  Check them out at www.samaritanspurse.org 

Conscience International:  If there is a crisis around the world, chances are CI is responding.  They work in camps in Greece and with squatter camps in Turkey as well as projects in other countries.  Check them out at www.conscienceinternational.org

In Clarkston, Ga.:

New Home – New Hope: NHNH is on the ground, day in and day out with refugees living in Clarkston.  It is a highly relational way to serve refugees, not just a programmatic one.  Donate furniture.  Teach English.  Donate specific ethnic foods.  Just visit and get to know families.  Refugees need friends as much or more than anything else.  Check them out at  www.newhome-newhope.org

Friends of Refugees:  This is a stellar organization serving refugees in a wide variety of ways.  Volunteer.  Intern.  Lots of ways to serve.  Check them out at www.friendsof refugees.com

Refuge Coffee, Co.:  Hosting an event, why not have a coffee truck?  Refuge Coffee Company hires and trains refugees for the coffee business.  Check them out at http://refugecoffeeco.com

StartMe:  Help refugees start their own businesses!  Become a mentor and help refugees achieve their dreams.  Check them out at www.startmeaccelerator.org

Public schools:  Call up one of the schools in Clarkston and offer to volunteer.  They are often an overlooked area of need as people tend to focus on the apartments and refugee families.